Sunday, January 18, 2009

10 Tips for Unpacking Your "Baggage": #8 - #10

Tip #8 – Whittle Down Your Pet Peeves!
Sometimes baggage manifests itself in the form of the demands we place on others. You know those seemingly innocent, perfectly justifiable little demands we call “pet peeves”? Sure they start out as small quirks but if your list makes it impossible for others to do right by you, ask yourself if you can let a few of them go. Having an unrealistically long list of demands that people have to live up to in order to satisfy your needs is a sign that you should ask yourself a few questions: 1) What am I trying to control? 2) Why am I trying to control it? 3) What can I do to begin to let it go?

Tip #9 – Choose Your ‘tude!
Attitude is the fundamental source from which all things spring, good or bad. This Comcast commercial, is a funny representation of how contagious a bad attitude can be. Think of your attitude as your reflection to the world. Often times the intensity of the “emotional/psychological” baggage you carry around can dictate the attitude you choose to display. Try choosing a positive/optimistic attitude; despite how your “baggage” makes you feel. I’m a firm believer in the power and impact that thoughts and spoken words can have on your circumstances. The more you speak positivity into your life, the more you’ll feel it throughout your life.

Tip #10 – Get a Shrink!
You knew it was coming people. I couldn’t end this series without recommending therapy. If you find that you are frequently experiencing “emotional melt downs”, to the point where you are unable to continue with your normal activities of the day, then it may be time to speak to a professional. Don’t think about the stigma and don’t be discouraged by the “non-believers” of therapy. But, do remember that therapy is work. It requires you to explore areas of your life in emotionally meaningful ways. You have to show up on time, you have to be honest, you have to stick it out and you have to be willing to “go there” (so to speak). If you decide you need the help of a professional therapist, keep in mind that your therapist should have the same type of “bed side” manner that you would expect from your doctor. Be willing to try a few out until you find the one with the right style for you.